tw: rape culture, rape, cissexism, slut shaming
I’m honestly not even sure where to start in outlining all the problems with this.
I guess the most obvious point is the slut shaming, rape culture part. This graphic implies that once you have sex you are giving yourself to that person. Your body ceases to be yours. They own you. I want all of you to know that is not true. Having sex does not, in any way, decrease your self worth or deny you ownership of your body. Your body is yours no matter what anyone tries to tell you.
Secondly, this implies (actually just flat out says it) that sex is letting a man use your body. Skimming over the part where that is incredibly heteronormative and cissexist, assuming all sex is between a cis man and cis woman, when in reality it is much more diverse than that and there are many different definitions of sex, that is WRONG. Sex should not be anyone just using your body unless that is what you want it to be. Sex can be about your pleasure, your partner(s)’ pleasure, or both. Sex can be whatever you want it to be. None of it is wrong unless it is non-consensual. If someone is ‘using your body’ in the way this graphic implies then it is probably not consensual. Promoting the idea that all sex is like that is so supportive of rape culture. Sex is not a crime, nor should it be as long as it is consensual and no one should shame you for participating in sexual activities.
Third, the fact of the matter is, your body is yours no matter what. In the aftermath of sex, if the outcome is a pregnancy, it is up to the pregnant person and the pregnant person ALONE to decide where they go next. Any option is a good option as long as it is a decision you make for yourself.
Fuck anyone who tells you otherwise
THAT’S NOT CHECKMATE